Monday, November 30, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Friday, November 27, 2009
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Monday, November 23, 2009
Sunday, November 22, 2009
"Nothing holds my interest unless it's about me and in that case, I generally like to do all of the talking. If you have something to say that concerns me...keep it to yourself, because you'll just be wasting your breath.
On the other hand, you seem to have so much breath, that wasting it may not be an issue. In that case, may I suggest you consider a "Breath Conservation" program? You'll learn to use it only when someone is REALLY listening."
It's interesting that the times I feel like I'm not being heard are usually the times when I'm trying to get someone to hear what I have to say about THEM. I'm so convinced that what I'm saying is in THEIR best interest, that I'm like a preacher on a pulpit and I'm not going to come down until they've HEARD me.
After a long diatribe, I usually end up saying to myself, "Sue, you're just wasting your breath." But, if I'm wasting my breath, is it because they're not listening or because I haven't stopped talking long enough... to become the "listener."
Why would someone be interested in what you have to say?
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Like a flower on a bush, sometimes it's easier and more comfortable to stay in my own environment instead venturing out into the unknown. But I notice that when I do the same things over and over - go to the same places - with the same people, I fail to really "see" things anymore. My eyes are open but they aren't really taking things in.
I've wondered what it would be like to spend an entire day pretending I'm from another planet and really looking at things as if I'd never seen them before. I can do it for a minute or two but I get bored and then start thinking of things I have to do.
Maybe I should have a more realistic goal - instead of a whole day, I'll just make a commitment to pretend I'm from another planet once a day - just long enough to notice one thing. That shouldn't be too hard - according to my family, I act like I'm from another planet all of the time!
Do you really "see" things?
Friday, November 20, 2009
"If you don't tell me the rules, I can't play the game. I'll only play the game if I know ALL of the rules and I UNDERSTAND all of the rules so that I don't BREAK any of them. Rules are important and they shouldn't be broken. A broken rule means the game is over which means no one wins and nothing gets accomplished and I like to ACCOMPLISH things and I like to accomplish things perfectly. You can't accomplish anything without rules and you can't accomplish them PERFECTLY if you don't FOLLOW them."
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
Sunday, November 15, 2009
"That sounds like a really good idea - I'm all for that idea. Of course... it might be a little premature to commit to that particular idea - in fact the more I think about it the more I think that it might be better to go with the first idea. Yes, the first idea sounds best.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
"So, you'd like to forget about that incident huh? Well, I have to say..."too bad" - what you want to forget I always remember and what you want to "remember"....well - you know the rest.
Friday, November 13, 2009
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
"I can't wait to see what's going to happen next. What do you think is going to happen huh...huh...huh? It's so exciting - just thinking about it is enough to send me over the edge. In fact, I don't think I want it to ACTUALLY happen - I think I'd just like to anticipate it happening...that's much more fun. Don't you think?"
Monday, November 9, 2009
"I like to make people laugh. If they think I'm funny they won't think I'm stupid - they'll think I'm just "acting" stupid but not REALLY stupid. I don't think I could make it in this world if people thought I was really stupid, however, I don't mind if they think I'm dumb. Dumb means you can't possibly get it right because you don't have the ability to figure things out so, of course, you're going to do dumb things. But stupid? Stupid means you have the ability to be smart but you just do something stupid which means you are REALLY stupid and might as well be dumb."
Sunday, November 8, 2009
"Wait a minute...just give me a minute would you? if I squeeze my eyes together real tight like this, I can block out all of that other stuff.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
"I like to make people feel good about themselves. Plus, if I make them feel good they might feel good about me. Really, it's all about me but they don't know that.
Friday, November 6, 2009
Thursday, November 5, 2009
"You either get headaches or you give them - one or the other so which one is it? Personally, I'd rather give them but I suppose if I do that all the time it wouldn't be fair so once in a while I take one for myself.
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
"HEY...YOU...over here. I'm over here. Can't you see me - can't you hear me? I'm aware of you, why aren't you aware of me? It's really annoying you know - I feel like you don't really want to see me - WHY IS THAT? Too much trouble? Can't look in this direction once in a while? Are you afraid of me or something?
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Monday, November 2, 2009
"Hey, don't worry about it...I'll be right here by your side ALL THE TIME...no matter what. You can depend on me to give you the perspective you need to get through life day in and day out.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
"I don't know...do you think it's going to work out okay? I'm not sure - I mean, what if it doesn't - what if doesn't work out the way it's supposed to...what do I do then? I wish I knew what was going to happen...if I knew for sure maybe I could prepare for it - then it wouldn’t be so bad. Well...maybe it would be bad but then I could just start worrying about what’s really going to happen instead of what I think might happen.”
Sometimes, I think the worst part of any situation is not knowing how it's going to turn out. I think I could deal with almost anything if I knew what the outcome was going to be.
But if I know the outcome, would I ever be motivated to take action? Or, would I forever be changing my plans in search of a better one?
Maybe the "outcome" isn't really as important as I think it is. After all, some of the most meaningful parts of my life are the parts that consist of the obstacles I’ve had to overcome or the fears I've had to face. Knowing the outcome would certainly remove the obstacles and eliminate the fears - but wouldn’t it also take away the sweet taste of victory and the sense of pride that is felt at meeting the challenge?
Maybe “victory” lies not in the outcome but in our willingness to face the obstacles along the way. And if “victory” isn't in the outcome then perhaps "defeat" isn't either.
What outcomes are you worried about?