Tuesday, October 6, 2009

THE WHINER - 1/365

"It’s not fair, why do I have to go first? I have no template, no instructions, no idea what I’m supposed to say. I need some rules here - something to follow that will tell me that I’m doing it right. What if I say something wrong or what if I don't fit in with the other heads? It’s important for me to fit in - to feel like I have a specific, meaningful job and to feel like I make a difference. So you know what, if I make a fool of myself, YOU’RE going to take the blame. I’ll just say I’m new to this blog thing and I have no idea what’s going on. They’ll feel sorry for me (“poor thing”) - they’ll feel sorry for me and they’ll give me the benefit of the doubt. Won’t they?"


My Reflection:


This guy started talking to me before he even came into existence. So, I was a little surprised by the expression on his face - didn’t look quite like the “whiner” type - maybe a little skeptical but his face definitely didn’t match his message. I tried to make him more “whiny” (whatever that is) but he just kept looking pleasantly skeptical. Maybe I don’t have enough technical knowledge to make it happen yet or maybe there’s a subtext to the message. So, I’m prompted to ask myself, “do I look pleasantly skeptical when I’m whining?”


I love to whine - just makes me feel better. I was told once that we are all either martyrs or whiners and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as we acknowledge it. That way we can warn others when we’re about to do it which makes it much easier to tolerate.


Think about it, it’s usually the ones who aren’t aware they are “martyring” or “whining” who are the most annoying. So, the question I have for myself is this....when I’m whining, am I up front about it or do I do it with a pleasant face and act like it’s no big deal? Wait, maybe that’s really martyring. Oh my god, maybe I’m both a martyr AND a whiner.


Question:

What about you?

3 comments:

Unknown said...

Gee when I think of you, whining would be the last description I would have of you. This head does not look whiney at all. This head looks quite content.

debbie stern said...

How are you going to think of new names for each head. That would be my stressor! These are great. My fav is disbeliever.

Sue Ellen said...

I actually have a pretty good list going for names but I haven't had to look at it yet. Usually, the name just emerges as I'm making the head. Once the name comes then he/she starts talking and that's about it! It's the most fun process I've ever experienced!!