"Hey... I'm trying to understand your point of view but you're message just isn't hitting the mark."
I sometimes wonder if I could receive communication more effectively if I had a bull's eye painted on my head to mark the optimum point of entry.
However, perhaps it's not the information going in, but my inability to hear it properly due to all of the background noise - noise created by my own competing thoughts.
I may be better off if I learn to quiet my own mind before seeking to understand that of another.
How much "background" noise interferes with your ability to "listen?"